'They made an offer to buy it. I refused': Guy purchases ex-fiancé's dream house, she finds out and loses it

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    "I bought [my former fiancé's] dream house"
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    AITA for not telling my former fiancé I bought her dream house? 10 years ago, my fiancé left me (38m) a few weeks before our wedding. We grew up in a small town. We were friendly, went to the same school, but we never were in the same clique. She was one of the popular kids and I wasn't.
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    A few years after college, I moved back home when my dad got sick. I found a job in my field about 45 minutes away from home. I would help take my dad to his chemo appointments. It was during one of those appointments I ran into EX. She was now a worked at the hospital. One day while waiting, I asked her out.
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    It turned out we shared a lot of the same interests. It seemed like our relationship was going great. About a year or so into dating EX and I moved into a rented house together. The following year, I proposed. We began looking for a house. EX always wanted to live in her grandparents' house on the lake near our town. Her family was forced to sell house when her grandparents died because of an inheritance dispute. 6 months before our wedding, a chance event happened. The couple who bought her gra
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    It was going to be my surprise wedding present so I didn't dare tell her or anyone in her family my plans. A month before our wedding, EX and her friends went to Miami for her bachelorette party. I am not sure all of what happened there, part of me doesn't really want to know, but I do know her high school BF was there. When she got back, from the trip, she broke down and confessed she was afraid to get married and wanted to call it off. It was a mess. She later moved to Florida and eventually m
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    I ended up moving back to the city for an amazing job. In the meantime, I still had the lake house. With the help of my mom and dad, we started to fix up the lake house. It took a few years. My mom and dad would look after the contractors while I was in the city.
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    Having the house was perfect when the everything locked down. I was able to escape the city and work remotely from the lake house. I now live here full time and work remotely.
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    This summer we had 4th of July at the Lake House. My SIL used photos from the lake this summer in her Christmas card. One of those cards made it to EX's cousin. The cousin recognized the house.
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    The Saturday before new year's EX's Mother and Sister were at my front door. After pleasantries and answering their initial questions, they made an offer to buy it. I refused. They were not happy.
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    A few days I got a long txt from EX. This was the first time in about 9 years she has talked with me. She called me an ; for keeping this from her. Her family is blaming her for losing the house again. She then asked me sell. I still have no intention to sell. Now her and her family are complaining on social media that this is some sort of revenge. AITA?
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    Noturaveragrchemist. NTA. Your intention was to surprise your ex with the house at the wedding. If you had called off the wedding, I'd reconsider my judgement but she is the reason why she doesn't have access to that house. On top of that, you've made the house your own. Enjoy it! 15.5k Reply Share
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    Specialist Point 1980 I would be petty and post on social media the date on the contract when you purchased the house and explain that if it wasn't for Ex cheating on you and leaving you for her now husband this would have been her house as a wedding gift but instead of having it be a painful memory of the hurt she caused you with the help of your family you were able to bond with your family even more working on the house together and that this house will now always stay on YOUR family for gene
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    The audacity of your ex and her family is crazy, now after you and your family spent a decade fixing it up they are trying to low ball you out of the house (I assume their offer wouldn't cover the cost of the renovations and any ppreciation on the house because that seems on brand for people like that) and when that didn't work they took to social media to complain. NTA, I would post the entire story on social media and then block everyone in that family. 6.1k Reply Share
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    speakmoreltome. Oh come on my guy! You know you're NTA. Enjoy your sweet lake house that now belongs to your family. The ex (and her family) are just salty because they realized what they missed out on. Personally, I wouldn't even reply. Just block and never think of her again 2.3k Reply Share
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    C Majuscula 5 days ago . NTA. Why would you tell the woman who dumped you before the wedding anything? Your purchases are none of her business and her family has some audacity to show up on your doorstep. 1.1k Reply Share
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    ironchef8000. 5 days ago Show her the contract of when you bought it. Make sure she knows that she burned herself when she torched you. You bought it with the best of intentions. She left you. NTA 813 Reply Share
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    NanaLeonie 5 days ago NTA. So...after more than 10 years and a presumably expensive renovation, your ex and her family want the lake house back. What a lot of gall they have! Anytime in the last 10 years any of them could have tracked down the owner--you-from the county tax records and made an offer. They can eat their sour grapes and get lost. 580 Reply Share
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    dart1126 5 days ago NTA. It sounds like they possibly think you bought it to spite her. Show them the property records/ whatever proof on social media as to purchase date. Say I bought this as a wedding gift surprise for my then bride to be. Since she cheated and broke up with me weeks before the wedding I have no interest, desire, or reason to give it to her. 262 Reply Share
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    lumpy_the_frog 5 days ago you are most definitely NTA, and you sound like a pretty great dude. you bought your ex an entire house as a wedding gift! if it was so important for her family to get it back, they should have paid closer attention to if it was on the market. you put tons of work and money into this house, you deserve it!! 248 Reply Share

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